We are adopting two adorable girls who have a little something extra, Down Syndrome!
We are excited to add them to our family.
We will use this blog to update family and friends on our adoption progress and fundraising efforts.
Just joining us? Click on the 2011 posts in the archive to find out why we are adopting the girls.

Question 3: I would love to hear about your other children!

My pleasure!  I love talking about my cute children!


This is Z!  He is 11.  He was adopted from Cambodia at the age of 4 months old.  He has traumatic brain injury.  He has some learning issues and is developmentally delayed.  He is also fantastic with little ones, especially babies!  He is one of the best caregivers I have ever seen.  He is also very creative and a fantastic artist.  He is constantly creating works of art using different medias.
This is M!  She is also 11 (she is Zachary's twin) and adopted from Cambodia at 4 months old.  M has childhood psoradic arthritis but she does not let her slow her down.  She is an amazing athlete and a great friend to all. She receives great grades and is well known throughout the school for her good attitude.  She is also the most unselfish, honest and spiritual person I know.  She works hard at everything she does and is a huge help around the house.
This is A!  She is 8 and is my "homemade" daughter.  She has macrocephally which results in her having very poor balance and coordination but a brilliant intellect.  She is a genius.  She has skipped a grade and is still the top of her class.  She is in the gifted program at school. She is a beautiful musician and can play music by ear. She is also very outgoing and never afraid to try anything new.  I wish I could steal some of her amazing confidence.
This is E!  We adopted him from Haiti at 3 years old and he is now 9 years old.  He had been horrifically abuse and neglected.  He had also lived in 3 orphanages before we brought him home.  The result was that he has some severe developmental delays and attachment issues.  Today though he is fully bonded to his family and has caught right up.  He does awesome in school despite having ADHD and is a great help to those around him.  He is fun and silly.  He is also an incredible athlete and is amazing at any sport he tries.  We are excited to see if he picks the NFL or the NBA someday ;).
This is N!  She is 7 and is E's biological sister.  She was adopted from Haiti at 20 months.  She was near death when we brought her home.  She was physically the size of a 6 month old, but developmentally a newborn due to severe neglect, starvation and abuse.  N also has some brain injuries that result in ADHD but she is brilliant at school.  N has skipped a grade, is still doing A+ work and we are applying for her to enter the gifted program next year.  N is our talented performer.  She loves to dance, sing and act.  She has been in several performances and her dramatic antics keep us all entertained.
This is C!  She is 7 and was originally adopted from Haiti by another family but upon learning that she had severe cerebral palsy, they decided they were not fit to be her parents.  We adopted C domestically at the age of 2 years old.  In addition to CP, C is also deaf.  Despite her body not working right, her mind is very bright.  She recently skipped a grade as well in a normal academic class and loves to learn.  She is my sweetheart.  She is always happy, patient and loving to all.  She brings the spirit of love and joy with her every where she goes.  She uses ASL to communicate so we have learned a 2nd language! C is an impressive horseback rider and has even been in shows and special needs rodeos.
This is T!  He is 5 and was adopted from Ethiopia at 2 years old.  He was originally diagnosed as being deaf but then we discovered his ears were just full of scar tissue from chronic untreated ear infections.  Once his ears were drilled out, he could hear!  T continues to have speech delays due to not hearing his first 3 years of life, but that does not mean he does not have a lot to say!  T is our very vocal and opinionated child.  He has learned to be heard!  He is doing wonderfully in Kindergarten and loves to play with his friends and siblings.  He is very affectionate and has a great passion for life.
This is J!  He is 4 years old and was adopted a year ago from Las Vegas.  He was horrifically abused, neglected and starved in his first home.  When we brought him home, he was 3 but was only wearing 12-18 month size clothing and looked like a concentration camp victim.  He was developmentally only 4 months old.  But with food and lots of love, he has thrived.  He is now 18 moths old developmentally, wearing 3T clothes and is making huge strides every day.  J was a micropremie and has hydrocephalus and a shunt.  He also has minor CP.  Despite these challenges he is the happiest child we have ever met.  He has only cried a handful of times and loves all of his family with many kisses and hugs. He is the delight of everyone in our home. He just started talking and it is the most adorable thing on earth.

We also have 6 sweet angel babies waiting for us on the other side that are a part of our family.  I suffered 4 miscarriages, C's twin sister died at only 2 weeks old while still in Haiti and we fostered a baby from Liberia while she received medical treatment here in the US that did not survive her surgery.  They are sealed to our family  and we look forward to being reunited one day!





When do we get to meet your sweet girls?

Good question!  I have been trying to pin down a timeline by talking to other families who have adopted from this region.  As far as I can tell, it looks like it will be 6-12 months from now until we can bring them home.  I know, not very specific!!  International adoption is known for its major bumps in the road as well so you just never know.

Questions and Answers!


I know there are a lot of you out there with questions.  So feel free to ask!  I will try and answer them as best as I can.  Just comment below with your question.

So here is one that we get frequently that I will start out with. 

How do you plan on supporting all of your children in the future?  For example, weddings, missions, college, adult dependent children, etc.

My first and best response is that we have faith that the Lord will provide.  If you would have told me 11 years ago that we would have been able to afford and raise 8 children, I would have called you crazy (let alone 10).  But we truly believe the words of Nephi when he says:

"I will do and do the things the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them." 1 Nephi 3:7

We have seen this very clearly in our lives.  If you do what the Lord asks, He will always provide a way.  The trick is to have the faith to do it before you have the answers on how he is going to provide. We have always had what we needed and more!  We live in a nice home, in a wonderful neighborhood.  We have always been able to provide for our children both temporally and spiritually.  We go to church and home devotionals every week.  We have clothing and food.  Our children are involved in piano, cello, sports, tumbling, horseback riding, scouts, etc.  We have good health insurance for our children so they can recieve the many surgeries and therapies they have required.  We take family trips and I really don't think we miss out on anything that smaller families have. We have never wanted for anything that were needs and very little that were wants.

So why would I worry about the future, when the Lord has never failed us?  Why would I doubt Him?  He will not abandon us in the future.

All that being said, I believe that we too must do our part in order for the Lord to bless us. 

Kevin has never had a day of unemployment. He has been willing to do the most menial of jobs in between his "real" employment.  He is an honest and hard worker.  His employers love him.  He has integrity and is responsible.  Because of this, and the Lord's blessings, we have always enjoyed a stable and good income.

We are honest in our dealings.  We do not take out debt unless it is absolutely necessary.  We do not take out loans for purchases (except houses), including for cars.  We save a lot of money by not paying interest.  When we do take out loans, like a mortgage, we have always paid it on time.  We have a beautiful credit score in the 800's because we meet our obligations.  This also allows us to save a ton of money because we get good interest rates, we do not pay late fees and we save carefully for the things that are important, while avoiding the things we cannot afford that aren't.

We save and plan for the future.  For our kid's college we have purchased a rental cottage.  It will be payed off by the time the kids go to college. The current rent more then covers the expense. When we bought it, it was a disaster, but we worked hard as a family and now it is adorable. We can use the rent after it is paid off to help pay for college.  We are also hoping for scholarships on some of our kids.  We have 3 children who have skipped grades, and all are very hard workers in school.  We make education a very high priority.  We also believe in our children working during college.  I learned A LOT more and took it a lot more seriously when I was responsible for the bill. 

Then it is the plan to use this cottage for one or more of our less independent children to live in when they get older.  It is just down the street from us.  Our disabled children as adults will recieve SSI, medicaid, food stamps and rent subsidy to help them make ends meet if necessary.  We also will strongly encourage employment no matter what the disability.  We also have a large home that we could make a basement apartment for a less independent child to live in.  As our children become more independent, the expense of caring for them will equalize or lessen.

When we die, we have a huge life insurance policy so that less independent children can be provided for.  They will also have the added benefit of a close very large family to help look after them. 

Things are really changing for the disabled though.  The opportunities are growing for employment and independent living.  We met a man who has such severe CP that he must drive his power wheelchair and communicate by blowing through a straw.  Despite this, he lives completely independent, has a great job, is married with kids and is very happy.  Our daughter Clarissa, might have severe CP but she is brilliant and I know one day she will live on her own.  Many people with disabilities, mental, cognitive or physical, live full, successful lives.  Techonology is improving rapidly that will only make this more of a reality.

As far as missions and weddings go, our children are already saving.  We feel it is important to give children allowance from a very young age so they learn to manage money responsibly.  Our children put 50% of what they make into a savings account at the bank (and they give 10% in tithing).  Our hope is that as they get older, this will become a habit that will carry them through their teens years as they get "real" jobs.  We expect that our children will be able to pay for their own missions.  It is amazing how much they have already saved!!  If the girls decide to get married and not go, this will become their wedding fund.  If not, we will have 2+ years to save for their weddings while they serve their missions.  We believe their missions will be more meaningful for them because they have saved their whole lives to go.  What a sense of accomplishment they will have!

But even the best laid plans can go astray when tragedy strikes.  This is where the Lord makes up the difference.  When we do all that we can do, if it is not enough, the Lord will provide a way to accomplish the things He wants for your life, and honestly, the other things do not matter.

I hope that this gives some peace to worried loved ones and hope and inspiration to others.  Do not fear the future.  The Lord does not work in fear.  Fear does not come from Him.  Fear is a tool of the devil to keep you from living up to your full potentional and having extraordinary lives.  So if you are feeling fear, know the source and discard it.  Have faith that if you are following God's will for your life, the rest will simply fall into place.  The things that don't, were designed for your benefit, to learn and grow and become more refined.  So either way, you benefit!

Opposition


The greater the good you are trying to achieve, the greater the opposition. The key is to have an unyielding persistance in the face of those who are critical. Do what you know is right, do not take opposition as an insult but as a compliment that if Satan is working so hard against you, you must be doing something he really hates! People do not want you to be extrodinary. It makes them uncomfortable with their own normal lives. But we must never apologize for what makes us special. Reaching for normal is not what we were sent on this earth to do.  Where would the world be without the people who would not yeild to the prejudice and fear of the people around them? Thank you Martin Luther King Jr!  I am leaning on your inspiration while fighting my own opposition.

Fighting for their Lives!

We are literally fighting for the lives of our girls.  Below is a link to those children whose mommies and daddies did not get to them in time and they did not survive.  Please help us spread the word about our fundraisers, please consider donating, please pray for their protection.  We cannot do this alone.

I have already had one daughter die because she did not get to us in time.  I do not ever want to go through that again.

http://reecesrainbow.org/?s=in+memory

Kelly

The Affects Of Being Transferred

PLEASE go to the following blog.  It shows very clearly what happens to these sweet children once they are transferred.  We have got to get my girls home NOW.  Please pray for our paperwork, we are only missing ONE thing to submit to our initial paperwork overseas.

http://www.matthew18vs14.blogspot.com/2012/01/waiting-wednesday-ksenia.html

Kelly

Valentines Fundraiser


We are doing another fundraiser!  We are selling cute heart yard signs to decorate for Valentines!  This way everyone can
show their love and support for the girls
by displaying the heart in your front yard.  I have visions of my neighborhood covered in hearts for the girls. If you are local, we will deliver it to you free of charge.  If you are not, please email me so I can figure out shipping costs.  The hearts will be similar to the ones above but they will be red.

Cost is $25 for one heart or $40 for two hearts. 

Thank you so much for your love and support!

Please email me at kelly@specialangelsadoption.org to reserve yours!

We told the kids!!

We told the kids that we are adopting!!  You have to watch their awesome reaction!

http://youtu.be/cNI5aSvzJRw

Alisa is on borrowed time!


At age 4, children with special needs residing in orphanages in EE are typically transferred to institutions.  The stats I recieved from the national Down Syndrome support group in our girls' country is that 78% with significant special needs die within a year of this transfer due to the care being so poor.  Alisa is 5, she should have been transferred by now. We are doing our very best to get the paperwork done at rapid pace.  Unfortunately, a lot of it is out of our hands.  Please pray with us that God will move paperwork mountains for us and protect little Alisa until we can get to her.  Please pray that the needed funds will find their way to us.  Please help spread the word about the other children on the brink of institutionalization or the sweet ones already transferred.

Do you wonder what these insitituions in EE are like?  Check out this investigative report (do not watch with small children in the room).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q1kbayAdlgg

Please Check Out Our Super Fun Fundraiser!

Are you artistic?  Do you like to quilt, take pictures or write poetry?  Do you know someone who does?  Do you know someone who knows someone who does?  Please check out and spread the word about our current fundraiser.  We are getting closer but we still need a lot of help to bring the girls home!

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